I usually really like the Facebook Memories feature.  It’s always fun to see what happened in my life on that day in past years.  Usually I get to check out some cute pictures of my kids when they were younger, or re-live a fun memory, but not yesterday.

Yesterday was a day that I really disliked being reminded about the past.

Two years ago yesterday, I was induced and delivered my deceased son.  After I had delivered him, I hemorrhaged and nearly died.

And yesterday Facebook reminded me that two years ago my best friend posted this status to tell my friends that I was in urgent need of prayer:

Please pray for Kristen, she successfully delivered the baby but is having some bleeding due to what they believe is a piece of placenta remaining inside. Her blood pressure dropped and she is currently on oxygen while they do an emergency D&C for the remaining placenta. Any prayers would be greatly appreciated!

And as fast as I read that status I remembered the stricken look of my husband as he looked on as I tried to keep consciousness as I kept losing blood.  I remember wondering what would happen to my children as they prepped me for surgery.  I remember wondering as I closed my eyes under anesthesia if I would ever open them again.

So many emotions, and even after two years, they can come back in an overwhelming rush.

The panic of the sudden deterioration of my condition, the grief of having just delivered my lifeless baby an hour earlier…it all comes back at the most unexpected times.

Yesterday was a day of so much thanks to God for bringing us through that time, and a reflection on the trauma and tragedy of the day, and the pain never goes away, but it does change.


Essential Oils for Grief and Sadness

I have been so blessed to have caring and supportive friends, and one of my dear oil-using friends, Thea, shared an oil blend with me that she formulated several months ago that has been very helpful in moments of deep sadness.

I want to share Thea’s “Oil of Gladness” blend with you here.  It is such a peaceful and soothing aroma, and it has been so helpful to me, especially when I have difficult moments.

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Thea’s Oil of Gladness Essential Oil Blend:

In an empty 5 ml bottle mix:

  • 8 drops Joy Essential Oil Blend
  • 5 drops Lemon Essential Oil
  • 6 drops Lavender Essential Oil
  • 5 Drops Stress Away Essential Oil Blend

Fill the bottle the rest of the way with a carrier oil like V6 blend, sweet almond oil, or fractionated coconut oil.  Add a roller-top to the bottle for easier application if you wish.

I often wear the blend as a perfume and it smells amazing!

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This oil blend can be diffused as well, so just mix up the following recipe in an empty 5 ml bottle and add 8 or so drops of the mixture to your diffuser.

Oil of Gladness Diffuser blend:

  • 16 drops Joy Essential Oil Blend
  • 10 drops Lemon Essential Oil
  • 12 drops Lavender Essential Oil
  • 10 drops Stress Away Essential Oil Blend

Mix together in an empty 5 ml bottle and leave a regular top on the bottle, so you can drip out into a diffuser.

Note: Do not add carrier oil to this diffuser mixture, as it will not work well in a diffuser.

Thea specifically chose the four oils in the Oil of Gladness blend for their aromatic benefits. Each oil helps in a slightly different way, and together have a very peaceful aroma.

Joy Essential Oil Blend

Joy™ is a combination of Bergamot, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Lemon, Coriander, Tangerine, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose essential oils that blend into a sweet, joyful aroma. Joy creates a warm, comforting aromatic atmosphere.

Lemon Essential Oil

Lemon Essential Oil has long been used for its uplifting and energizing fragrance, and it is a favorite mood-brightening aroma.

Lavender Essential Oil

Lavender Essential Oil is a standby for all things relaxing and soothing.  A longtime favorite for bedtime and winding down, the calming floral fragrance of lavender makes it a perfect companion to the oils in this blend.

Stress Away Essential Oil Blend

Stress Away™ essential oil blend was created to combat normal stresses and can help promote relaxation.

Day by day, step by step

Grief is a process, and most days are good days now.  My children are growing and changing all the time, and there is so much joy in being their mother.  Being able to enjoy them is part of the dance of beauty and pain that is grief and loss.

I love them and wonder often what it would be like if their brother was here to toddle around and join them in playing.  And in moments when it seems to want to overtake me, I am thankful for my dear friend, and her kindness to share the Oil of Gladness with me.

I hope that this blend blesses you as much as it has blessed, and continues to bless me.