One of the first things that I remember buying after I got my very first paycheck was a bottle of drugstore perfume. Does anyone remember Candies? Yes, Candies was THE fragrance of choice for high school girls back in the nineties! It made me feel more confident and attractive, and I’ve been told, was appreciated by the guys, too.
But using the synthetic perfumes isn’t something I’m willing to do anymore, and once I found the benefits of essential oils, I started to experiment with them in all areas of my life.
Even the love life. Oh yes, I plan on going there.
We’re all adults, right? Let’s chat about it then, shall we?
Are essential oils aphrodisiacs?
Scents have played a very important role in romance for thousands of years. Since ancient times both men and women have mixed up fragrant ointments and perfumes to both cover up unwanted odors and to make themselves more attractive to potential partners. In fact, Cleopatra was reported to have scented the sails of her ship with rose! (That had to cost a pretty penny!)
The perfume business is still big business, raking in 29 BILLION in revenue in 2015 (SOURCE). Most people seem to have a subconscious understanding of the way that smell influences emotion, mood, and in this case sexual desire. If we didn’t, we probably wouldn’t bother with the morning ritual of applying our personal scent.
For centuries people have sworn by all sorts of folk-aphrodisiacs from raw oysters to green coated chocolate candies as the secret to sexual satisfaction. Results typically vary widely depending on who you talk with and sometimes people will lump fragrance, and particularly essential oils into that same boat.
So are essential oils aphrodisiacs?
Well, not in the magical folk-lore sense, but they can play a valuable role in helping spice things up in the bedroom for a few reasons:
Your body is created for sexual enjoyment.
Your body is designed for sexual enjoyment. Every part of your body is delicately connected through a network of systems, the endocrine system (hormones), the nervous system (sensation and thought), circulatory system (blood flow to sensitive areas) to name a few. Each of these parts works in harmony to create the intimate moments that we desire.
When we have healthy bodies, and our systems are working at their best, then romantic encounters have the potential of being just what we hope for. Magical!
Essential oils are the perfect companion to maintaining health and vitality. Each system that is involved in the enjoyment of sex can be supported by the use of specific essential oils. In this way, we can stay balanced and ready for a healthy love life.
Good overall health=better sex. Plain and simple!
In that way, since essential oils may support the normal function of the body and keep the body balanced, they may help to stimulate the desire your body is already made to experience.
Here are a few things that may help support good reproductive health:
Fragrance stimulates emotions and reduces stress
If you’ve ever smelled an old boyfriend’s cologne as you were walking through the mall, you likely experienced a rush of emotions as you turned your head to see who was there.
The smell of a home remedy might remind you of your childhood or a parent and bring up the feelings that go with those memories. In fact studies on fragrance have found that just smell alone has the ability to enhance the perception of someone’s level of attractiveness (SOURCE).
In addition to helping to foster positive emotions, fragrance can also help reduce day to day stress (SOURCE). Stress from work, family matters and life in general can often interfere with intimacy and thankfully there are scents to help us relax and reconnect so that we can enjoy a healthy sexual life.
So while essential oils aren’t a magical aphrodisiac, they absolutely can add to the sensuality and enjoyment of intimacy. In fact we’ve found quite a few ways that essential oils have spiced up our love life.
I’ll share a few ideas with you!
Ways to spice up your love life with essential oils
Massage is a fantastic way to connect with your partner and can be a nice way to unwind at the end of a long day or as the beginning to a night of fun!
For a long time I suffered through those uncomfortable on the bed massages (you know the one with your head craned awkwardly to the side and your spouse perched somewhere over the top?). But, I just found this new method that we’re going to start using called Melt Massage.
A friend of mine shared a link to a Melt Massage video on her Facebook and I went to check it out. It looks like it solves ALL of my problems of 1. no massage table and 2. not liking to be uncomfortable on my face on the bed, and it is a very tastefully done (aka. G rated)! We’re going to take one of their Melt Massage video courses for Valentine’s Day this year!
Curious about how it works? Remember the potting wheel scene from the movie Ghost? Yeah, it is like that….you’ll melt, too!
But I digress….
So if you’re going to have a romantic massage you’ll want to have a massage oil to use.
Romantic Massage Oil:
To 4 ounces of neutral carrier oil (I like V6 carrier oil blend) add 30-40 drops (total) of essential oil. Store in a glass container and use liberally to massage.
Romantic essential oils and essential oil blends you may want to try are:
- Rose (because genuine rose oil is very expensive, try using along with other essential oils in a blend)
- Ylang Ylang (my personal favorite)
- Sensation Essential Oil Blend: A synergistic blend of coriander seed, ylang ylang, bergamot, jasmine, and geranium essential oils
- Shutran Essential Oil Blend: A synergistic essential oil blend for men of blue spruce, ocotea, ylang ylang, hinoki, coriander seed, davana, lavender, cedarwood, lemon, and black spruce essential oils
Or you could use a pre-made massage oil like the Sensation Massage Oil that we use! So nice!
A Soothing Bath
Whether you have a tub made for two or you just want to get some relaxation time in, a bath is a wonderful way to de-stress and get ready for intimacy.
Pick one of the essential oils listed above or try some oils meant for relaxation instead.
For a relaxing bath I like Lavender or the Stress Away blend of essential oils.
To make a relaxing bath salt:
Combine one cup of epsom salts with 8-10 drops essential oil of choice. Mix into the water when drawing your bath until thoroughly dissolved. Alternatively, mix the 8-10 drops of essential oil with 1/4 cup of unscented natural body wash and mix into bath water.
Directly apply to your body
One of my favorite ways to use oils for intimacy is to apply them directly to the body.
Applying essential oils before intimacy can make for a magical experience. You can apply them to:
- the forearms
- inner thighs
- behind the ears
- back of the neck
Pick your favorite romantic oil or blend and dilute with carrier oil as needed! One of my favorite tried and true oils for intimacy is Ylang Ylang. Does the trick every time!
Oils for her:
- Sensation blend
- Ylang Ylang
- Sclaressence blend
- Blue Spruce
Oils for him:
- Sensation blend
- Hong Kuai
- Blue Spruce
- Shutran blend